How to Prepare for Marriage
There are lots of things you can do today to make you truly ready for your future marriage. With or without a serious relationship, it matters not. The sooner you begin this preparation, the better.
Below are five steps that will put you on the right track:
Check your habits.
Do you have any habits which you suspect might bring conflict to your relationship with your future spouse? Maybe you like to leave your dirty laundry everywhere, or maybe you have problems managing your finances. If you think you could use others’ opinions, don’t hesitate to ask your closest family members and friends. But let them be candid enough and don’t make them feel guilty. Improve your conflict resolution approach. Your single years are the best time to define your conflict resolution style and how you can improve it. Think of the last two or three conflicts you’ve encountered. How did you handle them? Do you think you could have done anything differently?
Be more forgiving of yourself.
Nobody’s perfect, even you, so learn to be more lighthearted about yourself and your mistakes. Start with those small mistakes, like misplacing your car keys or mispronouncing certain words. Instead of berating yourself, half a good laugh about it and move on. Embracing yourself for your all that you are can be so liberating.
Look for opportunities to serve.
The best marriages are those in which spouses don’t hesitate to sacrifice for other. In your single years, you can cultivate a sense of servanthood. Search for ways to serve your church or local community. This could mean volunteering to babysit for single mom, driving an elderly neighbor to a friend’s house, or participating in your church’s outreach programs. If you make servanthood a constant part of your live today, it will come more naturally for you in marriage.
Take stock of your friends.
Lastly, it’s important that you have a support system that helps you become a good better half to your future spouse. A quick friendship inventory will let you know if you have that kind of friends. Start by asking yourself three questions. One, do they value marriage? Two, do they respect people of the opposite gender? Three, are they brave enough to correct you when you’re wrong? Maybe they don’t know how they’re coming across. If you ask them to encourage you in specific areas of your life, they may be happy to oblige. Remember, choosing your friends is not a mistake. There’s no wrong in wanting to be with people who can help you shape a better life.